CHALLENGES

The word ‘Challenge’ is a very interesting word. Challenges bring the best out of anyone who face them bravely.All of us face both minor and major challenges in our lives. How we deal with those life challenges determines how we experience life – as a struggle to survive or as an
ongoing adventure in growth and fulfillment.

The word ‘Challenge’ has a positive connotation. The word ‘ Problem’ on the contrary has a negative connotation. If you call your friend over phone and tell him that you have a problem that might make him defensive.It might not let him come forward freely to listen to you further. The word ‘Issue’ is neutral. If you tell your friend that you have an issue he will be neutral while listening to you. Similarly, if you use the word ‘ Challenge’ your friend might even express his willingness to participate and join hands with you to meet the challenges. Still better, if you can use the word ‘Opportunity’. If you tell your friend that you have an opportunity, he will definitely be happy to listen you. Same situation- how you view and what word you use to convey the situation makes all the difference.

What if we could learn to see life’s challenges in a whole new light? What if we could learn to see  them as highly beneficial experiences, adventures in learning, or even blessing in disguise? Wouldn’t that be a welcome shift in perception?

The truth is, with the right mental attitude we can completely reframe the way we experience challenges. And asking the right questions is one of the most effective ways to do that. With a little practice we can come to view challenges as some of our most valuable life experiences.

All leaders have the courage to challenge the status quo. This has resulted in positive changes in the world we live. Have you ever noticed that every challenge also contains a blessings in disguise? If not, perhaps you haven’t been looking closely enough! Granted, life’s challenges usually seem like inconveniences when they interrupt our schedules, or get in the way of something we want to do. Isn’t that part of the reason we call them challenges?

Questions you can ask yourself when facing challenges:

1. What can I learn from this?
2. What knowledge, skills & abilities I need to face them?
3. How can I improve my knowledge,abilities & skills?
4. Do I have right attitude to get the best out of every challenge I face?
5. What behavioral flexibilities it will bring to me?
6. What and How I can make the best out of these challenges?

When it comes to facing the challenges and learning from them, our best teachers are children. We can learn a lot from children as to how they face challenges and convert them easily into a learning tool. For children, challenges are fun. They want more of them. This is the secret of their growth, success & happiness.

The only thing that is permanent in our life is ‘Change’. Great challenges change our negative beliefs and enables us  to reach our full potential. Great challenges make us strong and get rid of our dysfunctional fears.

Our environment is always benevolent and keeps providing us a lot of challenges every moment to bring the best of ourselves. I define ‘LUCK’ as the meeting point of the opportunities & challenges passing by and our alertness. Opportunities & Challenges are always present in our life. It is our alertness makes us either Lucky or otherwise. The short cut to success is grabbing the challenges coming in your way with both hands. Now I know what would be your attitude  when you face your next challenge. Go & Grab them with full courage and conviction and make success & happiness as your friends.

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THOUGHTS

Our THOUGHTS determine our DESTINY!!!

Thinking leads to Belief
Belief leads to Action
Repeated Action forms Habits
Habits decide our Character
Character determines our Destiny

George Miller, in his book ” The Psychology of Communication” estimated that humans have thoughts at a rate of 7 +/- 2 per second. That is approximately 25000 thoughts per hour. Out of this 25000 thoughts how many thoughts we are conscious of? This shows our present state of AWARENESS.

If you want to know what type of thoughts you were entertaining, see your present circumstances and they will reveal. Similarly, if you want to know what future holds for you, watch your present thoughts.

Controlling Thoughts: Successful people control their thoughts. What I mean here is that they control the meaning they want to give to the thoughts and not necessarily controlling the arising of the thoughts. It is very difficult to control our thoughts, though not impossible. The reason is thoughts travel faster than light. Light travel approximately 300000 Kilometres per second. The SUN we see now is what the SUN was 7 minutes before. It takes 7 minutes for light to travel from the SUN to the EARTH. Thought is much faster than light. You can THINK of the SUN within a fraction of a second. Hence it is very difficult to control thoughts. What we can do is to reduce the frequency of thoughts per second by increasing the gap between two successive thoughts. This is what we do in meditation. Practice the following to reduce the frequency of thoughts:

1. Simply observe thoughts as they arise without judging them.
2. Don’t Resist any thought.
3. Don’t Hold on to any thought.
In the process you detach yourself from thoughts by being a witness of the thoughts.

How do you know that your thoughts are working for you(not against you)? As we mentioned earlier, it is very difficult to control thoughts but it is relatively easier to observe the feeling(the other side of a thought)we have. Whenever we feel good that means our thoughts are working for us and the converse is also true.

Sources of our thoughts:
1. Our memory.
2. External objects.
3. Our Desires.
4. Our Imagination.

These are the major sources of our thoughts. We can control the quality of our thoughts by controlling our sense organs and our desires. Our conscious mind’s ability to direct our focus and its ability to imagine can change our life based where we focus and what we imagine. Only human beings are bestowed with this two abilities(ability to focus & ability to imagine). Let us make the best use of these abilities to empower ourselves.